I just finished watching another episode of Law and Order. This one was about a half black, half Asian kid that was a product of his mother being raped. Without ever knowing his father, he ends up raping and murdering Asian women. And while he was growing up with his Asian side of the family in China Town, he was always belittled and insulted not only by people outside the family, but also in the family. So, did he commit these crimes because he had the genes of his criminal father or was it because of his environment growing up?

The more I think about genes and whether or not they influence our actions, I have to believe they somehow do. However, our environment plays a big role in helping us become what we choose to become. About genetics, for example, how can we explain the instinct of a baby to suck on a nipple and hold the breath underwater? Some of our actions are so tightly sown into our genetics that we no longer think about them; like coughing. We cough because we want to expel something from our body, but I never thought about the actual step by step act of coughing while I was doing it…

I’m convinced though, that our environment plays a much bigger role in our becoming than our genetics. Well, come to think about it, our genetics influence the way others look at us and that over a long period of time can cause any person to create new behavioral patterns, whether good or bad. Our environment is not just people, it is also resources available to us that will influence the way we eat and dress.

I can’t think of anything more important for children than to have an environment and the resources necessary to help them succeed in life. This is why I prefer to help the youngest. Because even though it takes more time and dedication to help a young person, it is easier than to have to fight and fix already learned behaviors. I keep saying I’m going to make something out of The Bullen Foundation. Maybe this is the year it happens.

About the title: it’s been a while since I read about redwood trees, but they didn’t become simply because of one aspect of their everyday life. It is the seed, the water, the sun and the rest of the plants and trees around them that in time transformed a tree into a redwood tree.

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I am watching a documentary on the attempted assassination of U.S. President Ronald Reagan. An interview with the wife of one of the secret agents in charge of protecting the president has caught my attention. In thinking her husband was wounded, or worst yet, killed in the attempted assassination, her first impulse was to scream: “my husband, my husband!”

Why do so many women scream more often than men? Could it be because their first instinct is to cry out for help so they scream to call attention the way babies do? A man is not expected to scream, in fact, he would be looked awkward if he does. A man is expected to address the situation. Society dictates how men and women should act and we all follow the rules. Some of us break those rules and either receive glory or shame for it. It’s the way things work.

Women scream when they fear the worst, when they are scared, when they want to call out for attention. Imagine if we could all play on both sides of the court? If we all, men and women, were not afraid to ask for help but at the same time were strong enough to handle many situations ourselves?

Breaking out of what society tells us to do is perhaps the best thing we can do with our lives. We go nowhere special if we can’t do that first. Setting ourselves apart is how our names get remembered. Don’t be afraid to handle your business, and don’t be afraid to scream.

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